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• signature - how to
• telephone talk
• introductions

After the wedding bells rang, you went from Miss to Mrs. and are now settling into your new status as a family!  But when it comes to signatures, telephone talk, and introductions, what do you do with your new name?  

If you were born Eleanor Ann Marks, for instance, and you married Arthur Jay Roberts, you have become formally Mrs. Arthur Jay Roberts.
- The Bride's Encyclopedia

#1 Signatures -How to Use

The first step is to sign your new name correctly on correspondance in both formal and informal settings.  In the examples below, the bold is your new name.

Formal Stationary and Invitations:

Mrs. Arthor Jay Roberts
or jointly,
Mr. and Mrs. Arthur Jay Roberts
or if with title,
Dr. and Mrs. Arthur Jay Roberts

Informal Letters, Checks and Legal Papers:

Eleanor Roberts
or 
Eleanor Ann Roberts

Business Letter:

Very truly yours,
Eleanor Ann Roberts
(Mrs. Arthur Jay Roberts)

If you need to write a business letter, you may wish to include your formal married name in parenthesis (as seen above). 

#2 When Speaking on the Telephone

The nest step is to use your new name properly when speaking on the telephone.  This, too, could be generally applied to email communication as all is considered informal communication.

• Close friends and relatives - Say, "This is Eleanor."
• Social Calls - Say informally, "This is Eleanor Roberts."
• Business Calls - Say, "This is Mrs. Arthur Jay Roberts calling."  But if you know them, simply say, "This is Mrs. Roberts calling."
• Career Woman - You must decide what is best suited for your professional telephone calls.  Many prefer Mrs. Eleanor Marks Roberts, placing the Maiden Name where the middle name was.

#3 Introductions

You are the new happily married couple, and there may be quite a few introductions to be made.  In conversation with close friends and relatives, always refer to your husband as "my husband" or "Arthur" not "Mr. Roberts."

When making introductions to:

• Business and distant acquaintances say, "Mr. Martin, this is Mr. Roberts"   or "Mr. Martin, this is my husband, Mr. Roberts".
• Friends and relatives:  Say, "Ethel, I should like you to meet Arthur."

When introducing your new in-laws:

• To friends and relatives: Say, "This is Arthur's mother, Mrs. Roberts."
• To business and distant acquantences: Say, This is my mother-in-law, Mrs. Roberts."
• Specify: "This is my brother-in-law Tom" or "This is Arthur's Aunt Ida."

When introducing new family members, remember to mention both the relationship and the name.

Check List

• Write your new name: Mrs. Arthur Jay Roberts (formal) and Eleanor Ann Roberts or Eleanor Roberts (informal) on checks and letters.
• Say your new name on the telephone.
• Introduce your new spouse and in-laws mentioning relationship and name.

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